The Unnecessary Outcry


There is no such throne.

in response to ‘Beadbi, “Bride” Sits on Throne with Back to Guru Ji in Glen Cove Gurdwara, NY’
‘Disgusting and utterly shameful act of Bridal photo shoot inside Sikh Gurdwara in US’
by Mani Amar


In a world riddled with atrocities that many of us cannot fathom, there seems to be a huge worldwide outcry on a situation that does not deem such attention;


The majority of the outcry is from the Sikh community at large. The atrocity proclaimed in the above noted blog posts is that a young woman, during a joyous occasion, unbeknownst to her, did something deemed disrespectful to the Sikh faith.

Firstly I write to Sonal Parmar; congratulations to you and your husband on your marriage, I apologize that many members of the Sikh faith and/or members of the Sikh community and diaspora around the world have taken what was nothing more than a mistake as an act of terrorism against Sikhism.

Some of the core tenets of Sikhism are equality, acceptance, love, and forgiveness. These tenets have been all but forgotten by the authors of these posts and the hate-mongering commenters. Instead of approaching the bride and photographer with kindness, they attack them with ridicule and presumptions of ignorance and stupidity. Sikhism, built off the foundations of honour, to stand against tyranny and injustice, was not present in the souls of these authors and so-called patrons of the faith.


Sikhism is a beautiful religion, as are all religions, and they are all based with the same core beliefs. Sikhism is also considered a very progressive religion, a religion that in its purest message should never cease to evolve.

Over the last few weeks, I reviewed as many of the forums and blogs as I could about this situation, and to say the least, what people are writing is nonsensical hatred towards this young woman, the Gurdwara committee, and the photographer.

People, let it go. The photographer and bride made an honest mistake, nothing more, just a mistake. Their mistake, though ignorant about the customs and traditions of Sikhism, does not make them ignorant nor stupid. The Sikh religion isn’t under attack.

The authors and commenters that wrote such things against these people, I question your faith. As a true Sikh, you would not have acted in such a way. A true Sikh would have embraced them with humanity and sought a peaceful and respectful resolution. Instead, you are a philosophaster of Sikhism, your superficial knowledge and belief of the religion may have penetrated your mind, but it has not entered your soul.

But that is the difference isn’t it? You are religious, but you lack faith. As faith is a quality one carries in their soul, and religion is what one carries in their mind.

The greatest gift from God, if there is a God, would be consciousness. Also known as individuality, self-thought, and identity. I do not speak for God, but if there is truly such a righteous being, they would be disappointed in the lot of us.

Ajmer Singh Randhawa started his article with “A Nonsikh bride” and peppered the article with annotations of interfaith marriage, Hinduism, and white descent. What does any of that matter? Again, I sincerely question his faith, as a true Sikh would never hold a person’s creed or colour against them. And that is what he was doing, regardless of what he says, that is exactly what he was doing. He is taking who they are and using it to strengthen his points, but alas, failed miserably. A Gurdwara is a sanctuary for all, not a sanctuary for just Sikhs.

Furthermore, the Gurus of the Sikh faith never wanted enshrinement, not even for the Sri Guru Granth Sahib Ji. A religion of equality that has ‘thrones’ and ‘shrines’, and has protocols on how people approach and retract from it? Do you not see the contradictions in all this?

Like the Qur’an, the Talmud, and the Holy Bible, the Sri Guru Granth Sahib Ji is a book, with words written by man. Regardless of the beauty of its message, it is a book. And the only divinity in it, is the divinity you assign to it. Again, this is the difference between religion and faith and I fear that most people that are attacking this young lady are religious but lack the faith (and logic) to see the error in their ways.

Please do not assume that I am attacking Sikhism, as I assure you I am not. I am merely questioning the logic in which you write, the contradictions in which you base your arguments, and the lack of faith in your soul.

I am not a sehajdhari, a kesadhari, or an amritdhari (as one commenter ignorantly questioned another commenter defending the bride). I cannot be an apostate because I never defined myself by this or any religion. I am not a scholar or professor of Sikhism or someone who is devoted to the religion, any religion, or the boundaries set forth by the concept of religion. But what I am is a person, a person no less who understands the core tenets and message of Sikhism, and knows that when people write hatred like this, they are not doing so because their faith has been insulted, they are doing so because their pride has been hurt.

Agnostically and Spiritually yours,

Mani Amar

originally written December 13th, 2014 © Copyright Mani Amar

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In self-reflection; I can honestly say all that is good in my life has been a direct result of my artistic expression. Be it through writing poetry, prose, or philosophy, through painting or photography, or through filmmaking, art saved my life and it can save yours.
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